Ephemeral Solace

Mama read this quote to me last October, and since then it never failed to inspire or give me hope amid this difficulty I am facing."Always lean on God because when things go wrong He will either teach you how to fly or catch you when you fall." Prayers do work especially when you put your heart and soul into it. Praying gives me peace, serenity, and hope that everything will be alright in God's time. I can always find rest in YOU. I keep telling myself that. Everyday I thank God for giving me hopes of new beginnings, a chance to live, and a renewed spirit. I know there will always be tough times but I must hold myself together for my family especially Bi and Evo. Also, don't let the society rule your life. Whenever I will feel bothered by them I will just think of this quote, "You are just a speck in this universe. What you do or don't do won't matter in the grand scheme of things." We all are, aren't we? What I just want to do now is pray hard, love my family, and live and die for them. I will always love you Evo and Bi.

Is she a narcissist?

Pathological narcissism occurs in a spectrum of severity. In its more extreme forms, it is narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). NPD is considered to result from a person's belief that they are flawed in a way that makes them fundamentally unacceptable to others. This belief is held below the person's conscious awareness; such a person would, if questioned, typically deny thinking such a thing. To protect themselves against the intolerably painful rejection and isolation that (they imagine) would follow if others recognized their (perceived) defective nature, such people make strong attempts to control others’ views of them and behavior towards them.

Pathological narcissism can develop from an impairment in the quality of the person's relationship with their primary caregivers, usually their parents, in that the parents could not form a healthy and empathic attachment to them. This results in the child's perception of himself/herself as unimportant and unconnected to others. The child typically comes to believe they have some personality defect that makes them unvalued and unwanted. To the extent that people are pathologically narcissistic, they can be controlling, blaming, self-absorbed, intolerant of others’ views, unaware of others' needs and of the effects of their behavior on others, and insistent that others see them as they wish to be seen. Narcissistic individuals use various strategies to protect the self at the expense of others. They tend to devalue, derogate and blame others, and they respond to threatening feedback with anger and hostility.

People who are narcissistic commonly feel rejected, humiliated and threatened when criticised. To protect themselves from these dangers, they often react with disdain, rage, and/or defiance to any slight criticism, real or imagined. To avoid such situations, some narcissistic people withdraw socially and may feign modesty or humility. In cases where the narcissistic personality-disordered individual feels a lack of admiration, adulation, attention and affirmation, they may also manifest a desire to be feared and be notorious (narcissistic supply).

Although individuals with NPD are often ambitious and capable, the inability to tolerate setbacks, disagreements or criticism, along with lack of empathy, make it difficult for such individuals to work cooperatively with others or to maintain long-term professional achievements. With narcissistic personality disorder, the individual's self-perceived fantastic grandiosity, often coupled with a hypomanic mood, is typically not commensurate with his or her real accomplishments.


SOURCE: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Narcissistic_personality_disorder


QUESTION:


Can a narcissistic personality develop/resurface when a husband/wife's requests for appreciation, affection, attention, and communication from their spouses are being constantly rejected?


The answer appears to be in the positive based from the first highlighted statement.

He has loved me all along...

Despite all the immaturity, nagging, bickering, coldness, pamumuta, humiliation in public and insults that I've heard during our time together, Bi has loved me all along daw pala. Bakit hindi mo sinabi na mahal na mahal mo ako mula nung narinig ko pa yan sa altar? Bakit kinailangang magkaganito pa? Mahal na mahal na mahal kita bi pero durog na ako, all alone, hurt, defenseless, soon to be forgotten. I just wanted to hear you utter those words all along because I felt unloved by the man I had given up my hopes and dreams for. Mahal na mahal ko kayo ni Evo..