Huwebes, Abril 27, 2017
They took my son from me
I wasn't allowed to do many things when my estranged husband and I cohabited. I can't even play a friggin music to jam or dance. So many things I was never allowed to do because we lived with my in laws. Our marriage has been doomed since day 1 because of this. I love my father in law, but it's a different thing when family and married life is involved. My mother in law took my son from me despite knowing how attached we were to each other.
Miyerkules, Abril 5, 2017
What people don't know
What you don't know won't hurt you but what you don't know also confuses you. When people know nothing, they fabricate, point fingers and judge.
For years, I had kept quiet regarding the complicated predicament I am deeply tangled in. I am not an open book. I don't need to explain myself to everyone who tries to ask. I believe they are either feigning to sound concern but deep down they just want to gossip or judge.
"You wouldn't last a minute in my shoes."
That statement resounds in my mind every time I think about how I was able to put up with such an abusive relationship.
I used to be a passionate, optimistic and very much driven to achieve my goals and dreams. I always wanted to be a national TV news anchor who eventually become a lawyer in time. I was ambitious but never an opportunist. Then I met him. He was disguised as a humble, funny, and intelligent gentleman who devoted his time for me. He is from an affluent family and was fond of showing off. After months of courtship, I fell in love.
Abuse started as early as our second year. When I told him I wanted to take up Law, he knocked me down saying, "Hindi ka naman ganon katalino bakit ka maglalaw school?" or "We will break up if you leave for law school." Being in love, I gave up everything for him while he on the other hands just used me to feed his ego and insecurities.
Fast forward to me getting knocked up on our 4th year together. One fine afternoon, he opened up to me how much he wanted to give his parents a grandchild since they are both senior citizens now. He was a bum which irritates his mother and younger sister so the escape goat he sees is giving them an apo. I was surprised but ignorant. I didn't take care of myself so 5 months later, I got pregnant. I wasn't ready but I prepared myself for motherhood when we found out I was pregnant. I do love Tope yet I was scared because he is not the type who takes huge responsibilities while I on the other hand do not earn enough. They agreed that we will get married. The catch? Julianne, his law student sister made Tope promise that we are to sign an ante nuptial agreement.
I didn't know how to respond. I sacrificed my life, career, everything for his brother only to be treated this way? I am to become a mother, a house wife with no guarantee of any future. I handed my savings to Tope, a total of P110,000.00 to contribute for our wedding expenses when he should have shouldered everything, I was never extravagant. I never wanted fancy things yet I was devastated to know his sister really believed I was after their money. With a heavy heart and uncertain future, I signed it.
Written is Conjugal Partnership of Gains agreement with specifications of separate agreements mostly. I am the losing party at this having nothing to bring in our married life. How can I contribute anything when I gave up my career for him? In this agreement, if Tope and I separate, we will only split our conjugal shares and fruits of our separate properties. However, based on our CPG documents, either of us too ill not benefit from the fruits of our periphernal possessions.
I could not believe someone could be so obsessed with their earthly possessions and money. Is $5-8M of savings in different banks and couple more millions of inherited real estate properties suffice enough to ruin a decent person's dignity?
Their actions awaken something in me. It made me indifferent, unsecured and persistent on working hard to earn for my future despite being married. Nalugmok ako.... Sa kabila ng lahat ng effort, gastos ko for these 2 siblings, ako pa pala ang mukhang pera. Napakamatapobre nila.....
I used to be a passionate, optimistic and very much driven to achieve my goals and dreams. I always wanted to be a national TV news anchor who eventually become a lawyer in time. I was ambitious but never an opportunist. Then I met him. He was disguised as a humble, funny, and intelligent gentleman who devoted his time for me. He is from an affluent family and was fond of showing off. After months of courtship, I fell in love.
Abuse started as early as our second year. When I told him I wanted to take up Law, he knocked me down saying, "Hindi ka naman ganon katalino bakit ka maglalaw school?" or "We will break up if you leave for law school." Being in love, I gave up everything for him while he on the other hands just used me to feed his ego and insecurities.
Fast forward to me getting knocked up on our 4th year together. One fine afternoon, he opened up to me how much he wanted to give his parents a grandchild since they are both senior citizens now. He was a bum which irritates his mother and younger sister so the escape goat he sees is giving them an apo. I was surprised but ignorant. I didn't take care of myself so 5 months later, I got pregnant. I wasn't ready but I prepared myself for motherhood when we found out I was pregnant. I do love Tope yet I was scared because he is not the type who takes huge responsibilities while I on the other hand do not earn enough. They agreed that we will get married. The catch? Julianne, his law student sister made Tope promise that we are to sign an ante nuptial agreement.
I didn't know how to respond. I sacrificed my life, career, everything for his brother only to be treated this way? I am to become a mother, a house wife with no guarantee of any future. I handed my savings to Tope, a total of P110,000.00 to contribute for our wedding expenses when he should have shouldered everything, I was never extravagant. I never wanted fancy things yet I was devastated to know his sister really believed I was after their money. With a heavy heart and uncertain future, I signed it.
Written is Conjugal Partnership of Gains agreement with specifications of separate agreements mostly. I am the losing party at this having nothing to bring in our married life. How can I contribute anything when I gave up my career for him? In this agreement, if Tope and I separate, we will only split our conjugal shares and fruits of our separate properties. However, based on our CPG documents, either of us too ill not benefit from the fruits of our periphernal possessions.
I could not believe someone could be so obsessed with their earthly possessions and money. Is $5-8M of savings in different banks and couple more millions of inherited real estate properties suffice enough to ruin a decent person's dignity?
Their actions awaken something in me. It made me indifferent, unsecured and persistent on working hard to earn for my future despite being married. Nalugmok ako.... Sa kabila ng lahat ng effort, gastos ko for these 2 siblings, ako pa pala ang mukhang pera. Napakamatapobre nila.....
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